The best gift for your partner based on their love language
The now well-known concept of “love languages” originated with Gary Chapman’s 1992 book, entitled, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. In case you haven’t read it, or aren’t familiar, the heart of the matter is this: we all express love differently, and identifying and understanding these differences can go a long way toward improving our romantic relationships.
The five aforementioned languages of love include: words of affirmation; quality time; acts of service; gifts; and physical touch. But no matter which love language your partner happens to identify most strongly with, there will come a time—holiday-induced or not—when you find yourself searching for that perfect gift.
With that in mind, consider the following love language-based gift ideas if you’re looking for a little extra inspiration this year!
1. Words of affirmation
If your partner’s love language is “words of affirmation,” they place a high value on written and spoken shows of affection. In other words, they'll love it if you write them a thoughtful poem or love letter, or sing them a song. If the vibe is right, you might also consider giving the gift of quality erotica. Don’t want to write it yourself? No problem, ‘cause there’s plenty of hawt AF stuff out there already, just waiting to be pored over, or—ahem—poured over, as the case may be, so take your sweet pick! Better yet, consider gifting several premium e-books at once. Other gift ideas for your wordy lover include these sexy 'n spirited stickers, and this life-affirming Braless & Flawless crewneck.
2. Quality time
People with “quality time” as their love language value your undivided, undistracted, fully present attention, complete with eye contact and active listening skills to boot. Besides turning off your smartphone for a day of meaningful quality time, consider gifting your sweet SO with some grade A sex furniture, like the deluxe Liberator Wedge & Ramp Combo, hailed as the “greatest invention for sex since the bed,” or the Liberator Black Label Wedge & Ramp Combo if you’d prefer the kink version, complete with cuffs and blindfold. These gifts were created with next level quality time in mind—neither of you will lose focus with accouterments like these. Bonus gift idea: the Liberator Talea Spreader Bar, which invites the person wearing it to discover the freedom in being delightfully bound—while their partner attends to their innermost needs without a delay or distraction in sight.
3. Acts of service
Those whose love language is “acts of service” value actions above words, and have a great appreciation for partners who do things to make their life easier, or help brighten their day. In addition to initiating a little role-play action that has you dressing up as a kinky maid and cleaning your partner's space (or your shared space, as the case may be), you might consider gifting your practical-minded lover with this hella cute Hydrate & Masturbate mug—not only is it the perfect vessel in which to serve them their morning coffee or matcha, but it doubles as a helpful reminder to drink lots of water and get in a daily orgasm (which, incidentally, you can also help with). For extra points, throw in a practical bottle o’ Bellesa Water-Based Lubricant, a Charge Your Vibrator Tote—y'know, for carrying their groceries and helping them remember their charger at all times, or this Bellesa Beanie, to keep their sweet noggin warm when the cold wind blows.
4. Gifts
While, on the surface of things “gifts” (or, as Chapman calls it, “visual symbols of love”) seems pretty straightforward as love languages go, those who identify with this way of expressing love recognize the symbolic thought behind the gift and value its emotional benefit over its monetary value—they deeply appreciate the careful and loving deliberation process you went through to choose it. With that in mind, why not give the gift of pleasure-inducing ‘jewelry’ in the form of this stunningly pretty Rosebud Glass Butt Plug: it's fracture-resistant, easy to clean, and compatible with all lubes—not to mention, it’s a piece of freakin’ art. You might also thrown in a little extra bling in the form of these Triple Play Nipple Clamps, designed to stimulate the nipples and the clit! If that ain’t thoughtful gifting, what is? Bonus idea: get your SO a pair of wireless Hidden Pleasure Panties! It comes with a remote control so you can both partake directly—be it in private, or out at a fancy restaurant, depending on the mood.
5. Physical touch
Those with physical touch as a love language value the feeling of warmth and comfort that comes with hands-on touch. They feel most loved when they receive tactile/physical signs of affection, like kissing, making out, holding hands, cuddling, and sex. In addition to engaging meaningfully in any or all of the above with your chosen partner, you might consider giving the gift of a top tier sex toy (or five). Thrust by Bellesa is brilliantly designed to deliver gold standard (revolutionary!) dual stimulation to the g-spot and clit both at once—think of it as the blended orgasm of the future (the future is now). Nirvana by Bellesa is another great option: this is a magic wand built to raise vibrational frequencies to a fever pitch—be it in water, on land, or in between the silken sheets. You might also consider the Luvli Ditto 2, AKA “The Wearable Couples Toy,” a hands-free wearable couples vibrator—complete with a wireless remote. And while you’re hard at work giving the gift of physical lovin,’ why not cover all your bases by tossing in a flogger, an anal training kit, or, the all-time must—a quality water-based lube?
Bottom line: while some of us are easier to get gifts for than others (there’s always the classic gift card!), one of the greatest pleasures of the giver is landing on that perfect present—one that’s sure to put a naughty smile on your partner’s gorgeous face and keep it there.
Happy gifting to all, and to all a good night! <3
