7 vulva on vulva sex positions for maximal bliss

There’s a lot of strange ideas floating round out there about people with vulvas doin’ the dirty with nary a cock in sight. And yet, in spite of the usual mainstream, hetero-obsessed, phallus-worshiping, penetration-centric mythologies, sex between women—or those with vulvas—can be a profoundly gratifying experience.

If you’re looking to explore deeper erotic pleasure with your lover/partner/consort of choice (and there’s no penis in the equation), consider trying out the following 7 positions for maximal bliss:

1. 69

This is a tried and true oral sex position, a move with real legacy, baby. One partner lies on top of the other in an opposite-facing direction so that both of your mouths land smack between each other's thighs. 69ing allows both partners to give and receive oral clitoral stimulation simultaneously—delish. And if feeling the weight of someone's body on yours is too much for any reason, you might lay on your sides for a modified “lying 69” position. This variation also happens to free up your hands for exploring more of your partner’s erogenous zones.

2. Queening

AKA face-sitting, this one’s great because it provides direct clitoral stimulation and the receiving partner can focus on the pleasure of, well, receiving—while also enjoying the ability to control the speed, rhythm, and motion. The giving partner lies on her back while the other squats/sits on her face (without covering her nose), and holds onto something for balance, riding to their heart’s content. Important: always make consent and communication a frontline practice, especially where someone’s face and breathing are concerned. This position also works well with roleplay, or BDSM power play dynamics like demanding dominatrix or queen and peasant, if you dare. There is boundless pleasure available in fantasies, be they taboo or not…if you open yourself to them.

3. Scissoring

Scissoring AKA “tribbing" involves two people rubbing their vulvas together with interlocked legs in a so-imagined scissor-like position. One partner lies on their side with their legs spread, one leg out, and one leg up with the knee bent, while the other joins in with their legs spread too, maneuvering their butt and genitals as close as possible to their partner's.While in theory, scissoring is hot and sexy, it can also be downright hilarious trying to get the position right, so go in with a sense of humor. That said, when you get it right, gliding your own wet clit along your partner’s wet clit can be, um, a mind-altering experience to say the least.

4. Missionary

While it’s true that the missionary position has some lasting heteronormative associations, the fact is, it’s for everyone, and it’s still popular for a reason. The receiving partner lies on their back while the other lies between their legs. One or both partners might use their fingers for mutual clitoral stimulation, or the partner on top might wear a strap-on harness and dildo for delectable penetrative pleasure if everyone’s into it. Adding a g-spot vibe to the mix is also always a stellar option. For a twist on traditional missionary, explore “double-missionary” with the help of a double-sided dildo—lean forward or back, gaze into each other's eyes or not, and bask.

5. Spooning

If you’re the cuddling type, this one’s for you. Lie down in a spooning position: the big spoon (person behind) can reach around and touch the little spoon as desired. The person in front can grind or wine their booty against their partner, reach around to pull their hair, or suck on their fingers. This can also be a great position for penetration, with the big spoon wearing a strap-on, or simply using a finger or two or three. And while you're at it, since your faces are so close together, consider experimenting with a bit of hot, breathy dirty talk.

6. Cowgirl

The classic cowgirl position is a contender here too! In short, one person lies down while the other sits on top of them. The person on top might start by straddling their partner and using their hips to grind, thereby stimulating both partners’ vulvas simultaneously. This position allows the person on top to relax into it, controlling the speed, pressure, and intensity as needed—with the input of the person lying down, of course! And if you’re capable of achieving multiple orgasms, this just might be the position in which to go for the gold. Other things to try in this position include vaginal penetration, anal penetration using butt plugs, nipple clamps, handcuffs, and kissing with reckless abandon.

7. Doggy style

Straight couples aren't the only ones who can enjoy deep penetration, doggy-style. One partner positions themselves on all fours while the other kneels upright behind them, perfectly poised to penetrate the other with their hand or a toy (think strap-on, vibrator, or anal vibrator). They might also use their other hand to reach around and massage their partner's clit. Otherwise, the receiving partner can stimulate their own clit with their fingers or a li’l vibe. Note: if you don't enjoy penetration and/or you want a break from toys, this position can still be sweet: just grind against each other without anything inserted at all. After all, the clitoris does have close to 8000 nerve endings—hello.

Bottom line: this list is just the tip of the iceberg (or should I say the tip of the clitoris?) when it comes to hot AF girl-on-girl or vulva-on-vulva action poses. May you go forth and experiment until your knees shake! 

One love. <3