Bellesa 101: Oral
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Here are our top tips for improving your oral game:
1. Show your enthusiasm
If you're the one going down, make sure you're doing so because you want to not because you have to. The receiver can always tell when you're treating oral sex like a chore... and that's not hot. If you don't love going down on your partner, ask yourself why not. A common reason is feeling inadequate or like you're not good at it. Don't worry, we've got you! For some more tips and tricks on the art or eating out, click here.
2. Find the right pace
Fast, slow, or somewhere in the middle... it's is all down to personal preference. Listen to your partner (their words, and their body!) to figure out what pace they like. A good rule of thumb is to cover the ENTIRE area. Use your mouth and your hands to stimulate the clit, g-spot, vulva, and vagina. Try things like licking, sucking, even nibbling.
Whatever you do, do not switch up the pace if they're about to orgasm! Consistency is key.
3. Look for the cues
Vocal and physical reactions will help guide you in understanding what your parnter likes and doesn't like. Listen for moaning or verbal instructions ("right there", "don't stop"), and take note of how their body is reacting (leg twitching, eyes closed). Pay attention and look at your partner, make eye contact and see if they're into it or they're zoning out...
4. Be curious
Ask questions! Understanding your partner's preferences will make you a better giver, which enhances the experience for everyone. Asking things like "what do you like", "what feels good to you", "can you show me where" will go a long way in making you a top tier eater in their eyes 😍