Bellesa 101: Introducing Sex Toys

Here are our top tips for introducing toys into the bedroom with your partner...

1. Proper Timing

Pick the right place and the right time to talk about what it is you want to incorporate into your sex life. After a long stressful day or rushing out the door probably isn't the best move, so wait until you both have the time and energy to focus on one another. 

2. Be gentle

Avoid harsh and accusatory comments like "you don't put effort in anymore" or "you never satisfy me". Try using phrases that focus on you two as a partnership, like "How would you feel about trying something new together?" or "I'd love to watch you use my vibrator on me". People can get offended and defensive when feeling inadequate in the bedroom... so let's not do that. 

3. Give it some time

Let your partner think about what you've talked about. If this is something out of their comfort zone they might need a little processing time. While we hope for an enthusiastic response, you might not always get it and that's ok.

4. Shop for toys together

A fun way to make your partner feel included in the process is to bring them in on the shopping stage. Introduce them to couples toys like the AirVibe Pro, a small dildo, cuffs, or Finger Pro Air. Smaller beginner friendly toys are much more approachable and a great way to ease into something new. 

For more on getting a partner comfortable with toys, check out our other tips here!