Love and lust with an Aquarius

No matter how often you look up into the night sky, and whether your view is starry or not, those illuminated pin pricks in the great vastness are there, a vital source of knowledge for the taking. In matters of love and lust, we could all use a little cosmic wisdom to help us through. While it’s true that there are countless factors which determine our sensual and romantic destinies, students of the stars are bound to benefit from a wellspring of immersive understanding—should they choose to tap in.

Let’s look at Aquarians, shall we? Born under the sign of the water bearer, between January 20 and February 18, these free-spirited and eccentric lovers are nonetheless air signs, which is altogether befitting. If you’re in a sexual and/or romantic relationship with one of these airy babes, you might benefit from a chance to gain a more profound understanding of them. Y’know, find out what puts the wind beneath their wings?

Here, I offer you a few of the sexiest and most scintillating traits associated with your Aquarian love:

Aloof…yet kinky as hell

Aquarians like to seem nonchalant, cool, and collected in the sack, which can give them an air of aloofness or detachment. That said, they’re generally highly skilled at getting it on, and extremely open-minded to boot. To protect themselves and maintain control, they keep their passion somewhat restrained. Still, this doesn’t stop them from being the most kinky of all the zodiac signs, hands down. Despite their chill exteriors, Aquarians are extreme horn dogs.

If indulging your darkest and most daring fantasies is what you want, Aquarius may be the perfect mate for you. When exploring the realm of role play, an Aquarian fave is the cuckold fantasy—the perfect in for anyone wanting to experiment with a third party. Many Aquarians are also particularly drawn to anal sex (fitting considered they’re ruled by Uranus—ahem). They tend to be attracted to complex and hyper-intense sensations, as well as social stigma. In short, taboos turn them right on.

Overthinkers…yet ultra accepting

Just as they’re prone to over-intellectualizing many things in life, Aquarius tends to put a lot of thought into all things erotic. In spite of their aloofness, as an air sign, they require communication, and love to discuss concepts, ideas, and opinions as a way of opening their hearts to someone special. But the Aquarius propensity for overthinking doesn't narrow their dating pool in the least—on the contrary. Rather, they see potential in love interests that others glaze right over. Race, class, age, gender, and sexuality are no obstacles to love here. They are particularly attracted to those who are offbeat or odd. Prominent scars or lost limbs are unlikely to faze them.

If getting really brainy and staying up all night discussing thoughts, ideas, and intelligent schemes gets you going, you may be very well-matched. What’s more, if you tend to shun society’s mainstream views of what qualifies as attractive and what doesn’t, you likely have a lot to talk about already. The stars are the limit for heady lovers like you. Just don’t shy away from showing off that big, beautiful brain of yours.

Unromantic…yet willing to communicate

Although Aquarians are ultra open-minded and make great sexual partners, they’re very independent and tend to avoid sentimentality, as they aren’t crazy about expressing affection directly. It’s pretty rare for an Aquarian to say, ‘I love you’ during sex, for instance. If they do, you know it’s for really real. Although they sometimes see sex as a means to an end, when seriously involved, they tend to use it as a communication tool. As such, they’re pretty good at anticipating your needs, ‘nam sayin’? Take heed, however: romantically, when all is said and done, don’t be surprised if your Aquarius would rather live together than (ever) get married. After all, this is also the sign most likely to shun tradition.

If you’re looking for old-fashioned romance, and an SO to make you feel really special with hearts and chocolate, a typical Aquarian may not be the one you seek. Better yet, if the concept of marriage seems antiquated to you and you see ‘shacking up’ as respectable a goal as any other, you’re very likely well-matched! Aquarians are most often attracted to partners who are warm, giving, passionate, and willing to give them a load of attention—continuously. They don’t shy away from a bit of drama and excitement, and if you’re well-suited, you probably don’t either.

Experimental…yet loyal (sometimes)

Ruled by Uranus, the planet of experimentation, Aquarius hungers for a lot of sexual variety and is often drawn to unique love entanglements. Unsurprisingly, many seek sexual freedom and non-exclusive arrangements. When dating casually, it’s not rare for them to have two or more lovers on the go. Even in more serious relationships, many Aquarians likes to keep their options open. But just because some Aquarians don’t really understand the concept of fidelity, as a fixed sign, they can be incredibly loyal and monogamous when they want to be. If they’re ready to settle down, they tend to be incredibly invested.

A sexual relationships with an Aquarius usually needs to be kept fresh and alive rather continually. If you’re well-suited, this excites you to no end. If you dream of striking a semi-detached set-up which involves quality time together as well as apart (or with others), you best find yourself a water bearer, stat. That old saying, “absence makes the heart grow fonder” has never been more true than when pertaining to Aquarius. Avoid smothering them at all costs, as this will send them packing. That said, don’t play games that hurt your heart either. If your Aquarian’s needs don’t align with yours, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship.

Bottom line: it takes intellectual stamina and sexual bravado to be able to keep up with this air sign, but if you’re up for the challenge, sex with an Aquarius could be the most fun you've ever had. And where there’s a true-blue connection, you’re sure to uncover deeper links of body and mind with your Aquarian partner.

As far as compatibility goes, no one does Aquarius better than Gemini and Libra, with honorary mentions going to Sagittarius and Aries, but no matter what your sign, lusty love conquers all, so if it's worth it, you’ll be the first to know! <3